Contra Costa Men’s Center


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There is a wealth of information available to help enrich our understanding of men's and boys' lives. Following is a partial list of resources available on the web and in bookstores and libraries.

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The Gottman Institute

Relational Life Institute

Books About Men and Teen Boys

Iron Man Family Outing
Rick Belden

Yes, Your Teen Is Crazy! Loving Your Kid Without Losing Your Mind,
Michael J. Bradley, Ed.D

My Losing Season,
Pat Conroy

Boys of Few Words: Raising Our Sons to Communicate and Connect
Adam J. Cox, Ph.D.

The New Male Sexuality,
(and other books by) Michael Gurian

The Rag and Bone Shop of the Heart: Poems for Men,
Edited by James Hillman, Michael Meade and Robert Bly

*Raising Cain: Protecting the Emotional Life of Boys,
Kindlon and Thompson

More Than Moody: Recognizing and Treating Adolescent Depression,
Harold S. Koplewicz, M.D.

*Real Boys: Rescuing Our Sons from the Myths of Boyhood,
William Pollack

*I Don't Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy
of Male Depression, Terrence Real

*Season of Life,
Jeffrey Marx

Understanding Men's Passages,
Gail Sheehy.

Talking with Our Brothers (Creating and Sustaining a Dynamic Men's Group),
George M. Taylor

Why Boys Don’t Talk And Why It Matters: A Parent’s Survival Guide

to Connecting with Your Teen,
Susan Morris Shaffer & Linda Perlman Gordon

Books for Couples/Improving Relationships:

The Brain in Love
Daniel G. Amen, M.D.

*The Five Love Languages,
Gary Chapman

*The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work,
Gottman and Silver

*Why Marriages Succeed or Fail . . . and How You Can Make Yours Last,
John Gottman

*Married to Distraction: Restoring Intimacy and Strengthening Your Marriage in an Age of Interruption, Edward M. Hallowell, M.D. and Sue George Hallowell, LCSW

Getting the Love You Want,
(and other books by) Harville Hendrix and Helen

*How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It,
Patricia Love, ED.D., and Steven Stosny, Ph.D.

How Can I Get Through to You? Closing the Intimacy Gap Between Men and Women,
Terrence Real

*The New Rules of Marriage: A Breakthrough Program for 21st Century Relationships,
Terrence Real

Difficult Conversations: How to Discuss What Matters Most,

Douglas Stone, Bruce Patton and Sheila Heen of the Harvard Negotiation Project

You Just Don’t Understand: Women and Men in Conversation,
Deborah Tannen

*After the Honeymoon: How Conflict Can Improve Your Relationship,

Daniel B. Wile

Books on Parenting:

Yes, Your Teen Is Crazy!: Loving Your Kid Without Losing Your Mind,
Michael J. Bradley, Ed.D

Raising a Son,
Jane and Don Elium

Parenting From the Inside Out,
Mary Hartzell and Daniel Siegel

The Price of Privilege: How Parental Pressure and Material Advantage are Creating a Generation of Disconnected and Unhappy Kids,
Madeline Levine

The Courage To Raise Good Men,
Olga Silverstein

*Staying Connected to Your Teenager,
Michael Riera, Ph.D.

*Uncommon Sense for Parents with Teenagers,
Michael Riera, Ph.D

*Get Out of My Life, but first could you drive me and Cheryl to the mall?,
Anthony E. Wolf, Ph.D.

Why Boys Don’t Talk And Why It Matters: A Parent’s Survival Guide

to Connecting with Your Teen,
Susan Morris Shaffer & Linda Perlman Gordon

When Parents Disagree and What You Can Do About It,
Dr. Ron Taffel

General Interest Books:

*Transitions (Making Sense of Life's Changes), (1980),
William Bridges

The Way of Transition (2000),
William Bridges

Emotional Intelligence,
Daniel Goleman

The Myth of Laziness and A Mind at a Time,
Mel Levine

Authentic Happiness AND Learned Optimism,
Martin E.P. Seligman

Anger: The Misunderstood Emotion,
Carol Tavris

  1. *Highly Recommended
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